deep breaths ... I had my daughter in law here last weekend ... she (does not know) and she was calling people bipolar left and right ... and it was people she was making fun of ... it was hard to just sit there and keep talking ... my son (who does know) ... actually walked away with his head hung down ... I think it upset him more than me ...

yes she is now family ... there child is due soon ... but no ... she will not be told ... "she" would never handle it ... I hate to keep a "secret" , but I can find no real useful outcome from telling her ... maybe when she is older ...

to me things are messed up and I didn't tell ... you told and feel it messed up ... neither of us are at fault ... it is the "other" that can not handle what is ... not what they want or we want ... but what is ... I do not feel bad inside ... disappointed yes ... is my self image damaged ... no ... her cruelity toward others does nothing to lessen my self image ... it is her issue ... not mine ...

of course I have the rest of my life to "work" on her ... she will get there ... I am patient ... please don't blame yourself ... don't let others steal your joy ... love Tigger.