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Originally Posted by Vibrating Obsidian
I wouldn't trust "brutally honest" people.
From my experience they're lonely people who try to "save" someone or "show the light" so you'll be drawn to them instead. They're creating anxiety, worries and dread of others to get more attention from you.
If you have bad feelings about those people, I'd advise to steer clear of them. They seem to only annoy you, no point in getting closer, as one tried to steer you away from your other friends.
They're using "truth" and "savior" attitudes to give you a feeling they're safe, but they're actually trying to put you on their terms.
They are not honesty and they are not truth, so I know what you mean when you sense arrogance.
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Exactly. If someone was being truthful in a polite way, then I would take what they say into consideration. Like, instead of being so dramatic about the smell of a dorm room, if it really did smell, then she could have been nicer and say there was an odd odor in the room and suggest that I'd use air freshener. I would be more accepting of that.
For the acquaintance trying to steer me away from other friends, I really think she was just trying to play the savior card due to loneliness like you said. If we had been very close friends and then she said something and explained why she felt that way and was nice about it, then I would have taken it into consideration. But she was rude about it. And she did it with basically every person I hung out with. A couple people did use me, but there were some that didn't. And me and her were not close so she really had no say in who I should be friends with.