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Originally Posted by Mr. Stranger
My plan is to limit my contact with them as much as possible, and to get out from there as soon as possible. We live in a small town, and if I stayed somewhere else other than my parents' home, the society would begin judging me as rebellious and disrespectful and ungrateful. It's a complicated issue to deal with such problems. The sense of community is still strong in my culture, and the emphasis is on the family rather than on the individual.
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I know how this feels I was in exactly the same situation,my culture completely dominated my life to the extent I was not an individual but had a female role to play withing the context of family and extended family.Rules had to be obeyed and servitude to the male authority figures in the family was expected,no individual choice or freedom was allowed.I was isolated and lonely and had no love or respect from other family members.It was very hard,I never want to go back there,or if I am born again next life I never want to belong to another culture with such strict rules,it totally demolishes any sense of self,individuality,creativity and freedom.No thanks rather not!Family are not worth it be cause I was only ever used by them and never given any love or rights of my own.Horrendous,a nightmare to live through.The community only exists to serve the eldest members and youth are used as slave labour in family businesses.Marriages were arranged and relationships with those outside the culture forbidden and violently opposed.