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Originally Posted by CrispApple
Someone that sexually abused me for many years in childhood apologized for it.I wasn't able to accept it though and the person got mad at me.But the way they said it was like when you accidentally bump into someone out in public and then say "oh,sorry" and then keep walking.
I don't understand how this person could even expect me to just accept their apology and let it go,never talk about it or think about it again.I was expected to act as if it never happened and I just can't do that.
All I wanted was to be able to talk about it,ask some questions,try to understand what happened to me and why.All I got was "people make mistakes" and "I already said I was sorry but that wasn't good enough for you".
Of course it wasn't good enough!Has anyone ever accepted an apology,forgiven and allowed the abuser in their life?
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My father apologized to me in his death bed. I was called, and convinced to go to see him. My husband, and i were there a couple of hours. My husband talked to him about god. A short time after that he apologized, then we left. He died a couple days later. To this day i don't have any idea what part of abuse or anything he was apologizing for. I try to believe it was for what he has done to me. I didn't see my mother before she passed, and the pain she caused me was far worse than my father, and she was ill for 2 years before she died. And for the past 2 years my oldest brother, who also abused me, has been living in my home bc of a injury, and has never apologized to me. The subject is never brought up. I always make sure i am completely dressed around him, i don't like him here, and he makes me feel uncomfortable in my own home, but i can't turn him out to the street. That i could never forgive myself for.