So my older sister died in October after a long fight with cancer. She was married for 45 years to my brother-in-law. Their marriage was an unhappy one, especially for my sister. They had one son, who is a grown man.

I saw my BIL yesterday and he informed me that he has a girlfriend. On the one hand, I'm happy for him...he's retired, does volunteer work, and has time on his hands.

On the other hand, I was a bit shocked. I mean, my sister has been dead for less than 5 months. My BIL and his new girlfriend are doing lots of traveling...something my sister desperately wanted to do, my BIL didn't want to, and they fought about it a lot. I don't know why he's traveling with the gf, since he wouldn't travel with my sis.

Today I am still feeling somewhat shaken up about the girlfriend. It feels like...wow...he replaced my sister so fast...and actually, he admitted that he was communicating with the gf during the last year of my sister's life. That broke my heart a bit.

What do you all think? Am I being ridiculous, or do I have a reason to feel kind of bad? I told my BIL that I'm happy for him, and I won't say anything different to him, I just want to straighten this out in my own mind.