I don't think that you expect too much. There should be more than just some sympathy. It doesn't achieve much. I guess it's hard for others to know what to do that will be helpful though.

I don't really reach out irl...and when I do I tend to regret it. I'm never sure what I expect but reality never quite matches it.

I think in future I will talk only to professionals, and even that is not guaranteed. I guess they are in more of a position to be able to offer things that could help though.

Sorry you aren't doing well.