Hi butterfly
It sounds like you're going through a real hard time right now, I'm sorry

But are you feeling a failure because that's the way you're seeing your life/yourself, because the attempts turned out to be attempts, or a bit of both??
It's just that.........the way I'm see it is that
no-one is a failure, they may find themselve in real tough situations,
all sorts of things might not work out, the cloud of depression (or something else) may make that look
so clear to them, but
no-one is a failure and everyone has worth regardless

And just wondering if you've had any
real help between/after the attempts??
Any
real help/support with any issues behind them??
Sometimes support, even not feeling alone, can make things look/feel a bit different........but if you want to talk a little more about what's gone/going on for you........
Alison