Hi

I'm a man and have had a similar expereince of sexual abuse by women in childhood. It has casued sexual dysfunction in adulthood. I'm in a relationship too. We try to communicate with each other about all our problems. I have some fears like you and some are difficult to overcome. Please let her know it's not her but due to your past abuses that causes sexual dysfunction. You may need a couples therapist so help sort out your problems.

PH