You said it, cyran0, oblivious. i did it, too - put up with mom for the turkey day even though i was only a ghost of myself. well, i also skipped it- skipped my dad's side -kudos to self for that. two down, one to go. still not totally true to self yet, but closer. they're oblivious to any pain they might have caused, any i might feel, the cuts on my body, the ptsd, depression, they don't understand the anxiety. and DID what?! totally over their heads-change the topic- "oh honey, i just don't see why you let things upset you so" bs.
kiya