Hello Linda: I'm sorry you are having such a difficult time.

From what you wrote, it sounds as though an eating disorders program would be the way to go for you if you could arrange it. If you keep posting here on PC, I'm sure you'll find many members who will be able to relate to your struggle. I do believe you are correct. Your family can't help you with this. My experience tells me that family members are almost never of any help when it comes to mental health challenges.
I see this is your first post here on PC. So...

to PsychCentral… from the Skeezyks!

May the time you spend here be of benefit.
PsychCentral is a great place to get information as well as support for mental health issues. The more you post, & reply to other members’ posts, the more a part of the community you will become.

Plus there are social groups you can join & chat rooms where you’ll be able to connect with other PC members in real time (once your first 5 posts have been reviewed & approved.) Lots of great stuff! So please keep posting!