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Originally Posted by WoundedAngel
I do have my son in every in-home service you could think of, and he has been hospitalized and in group homes countless times since he was 2. It seems as though every time he is put in placement, I get time to take care of myself and rest when I need to, but as soon as he comes back home, it goes right back to not being able to do what I need for myself. I literally have no life outside of my house when he is here. He is in psych placement now, but I was told he may be coming back home in a few weeks, maybe. I'm already nervous and afraid. I've had my face broken ( kicked right below the left eye, deep facial fracture), had my hair ripped out...you name it. And he has done so much property damage that we are at risk for eviction. His psychiatrist has suggested that I consider some type of long-term/permanent placement for him. Plus, the local school system has all but given up on him. I feel awful. I've done everything I can think of to help him and nothing works. I feel like a failure as a parent.  |
I don't think you have failed him at all. Things are going on with him that you have no control over. It's not like if you spend more time with him he will get better, or you love him more he will get better. What he needs is outside of what you can humanly do for him. He sounds a lot like my cousin. He did the same things to my aunt and her home. Everyone was afraid of him. He had to go to a permanent placement and it was better for everyone eventually. My aunt had problems with it at first, but once she got on her own anxiety meds and going to therapy she was much better and saw how the placement was for everyone's safety and happiness. She one made the mistake to take him out and bring him home because he was doing so well......that's when he really went wild at her house and broke her nose. It was a big issue to get him back in the system then. So let that experience be a heads up for you.
My aunt was having the same feelings you are. It is hard to understand and accept. But when there's absolutely nothing you can do, you have to hand this over to someone who can help him before he does something that he may be jailed for. With that I mean a mental health jail. Give it some thought. I know it's hard but I feel like you will do the right thing. We are here for you.