Free_lancer and welcome to PC!

Sorry to hear that your boyfriend is having difficulties with your past relationship. I'm wondering if it's possible he's not feeling completely secure right now and maybe he's doubting a little bit about his and your feelings for each other? The other thing I'm thinking is that maybe he has a bit of a jealousy problem?

No one can change their past. We all have things that have happened in the past that we are not proud of or in hindsight wish we had not done. But the past is the past. At some point, everyone needs to move on and learn from each experience.

I think the best thing you can both do for each other is to communicate (which it sounds like you are doing which is great!). I believe you need to take of any blinders you may have on and really look at your boyfriend and see if there are areas of jealousy that he shows (overt or subtle). If you see none, then thats a good thing and it sounds like he is processing things. Talking about your past experiences may not be the thing to do here. Giving him as much reassurance as you can that you are committed to your relationship may help him get over his visuals. Both of you working on the present and your future together could be a big help for him to get past it too. Reminding him that no amount of thought of the past will change the past....encouraging him to think of the present and future might help.

I don't know if this has been much help. I do hope you both can work through this issue and enjoy each other. I wish you both well!

Hugsss
sabby