I am the most timid, nonconfrontational person ever plus sometimes my H is not always good about listening to certain "complaints". Having gone through the extreme steps of taking a few measures towards divorce a week ago--I have never felt more stressed, paranoid and unhappy ever. I can't live without him. There was one positive thing, he listened to some things that I have needed talk to him about for years. I would be bored without him. He is sweet, funny and a great lover. I spilled our whole fight on PC, but perhaps it's better than doing something as crazy as making an attempt and landing in intensive care. Though I still have this feeling that he is monitoring what Hopingtrying says--so though I am not so easy to live with given all the impulsive things I do, "being monitored" is also not so great. So, as I said at the start of this thread, perhaps I deserve this or perhaps, now that we have cleared the air, we can be a bit more trusting? Since my attempt, I have tried, with varying levels of success, to be more open about things. Good marriages take a lot of trust even when you have been married for a very long time....