Cyrano,

Weighing in on CBT (Not for me either, tooooooo simplistic). On T's who mention DSM (What's the point, anyone can fit themselves into any criteria if they try hard enough...)
Who's not smarter than me (I really get this...you need an intellectual match so you can have some friction in the relationship, otherwise you won't be able to grow.)

Yeah, dump this T asap. BUT, please do ask what this T's approach is and if all T's at that particular clinic use the same approach. you might have to look outside of your house-hunting criteria (LOL) to find the right T for you!

On EMDR--I know it works for some. It was not an effective tool for me. T used it a couple of times, but it left me feelng very spacey and I tend to dissociate a lot as it is so we "just talk."

Good luck and peace.