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Originally Posted by Skies
Recognition of the neurobiological insults imposed by complex trauma and the implications for psychotherapeutic interventions | BJPsych Bulletin
Related article by some of the authors of the article above.
Conversations here about people considering themselves as "disordered" or "defective" or "too needy" or "too much" prompted me to post this. I don't like to think of anyone like that, and I've felt disconcerted after hearing others talk like this even though I've thought of myself like that at times, including recently.
It seems the more my therapist pathologizes my thinking or behaviors, the more my view of myself improves. Reverse psychology? Being a fighter; my survival nature coming back after all this time?  Ha!
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I'm a fighter, too, but that was shamed by my family and culture of origin, and I needed them for survival more than my own self-esteem (so young me thought or felt
), so the "fight" went into problem-solving as well as self-fighting, the latter of which I have worked hard to abandon!
What I could not understand about my last T, and others, was her extreme (reactive) rejection of my outbursts of (relatively mild) curses, which I experienced as rejection of me, and which WAS a rejection of the young "angry" me which had been dissociated. Given that rejection, the "vulnerable me", which "angry me" protected?, did not make an appearance in that therapy. Nor could I understand that (perhaps) I needed to try to find some other therapist, which I was clueless about and had failed at so many times before.
Thanks, Skies. Both articles seemed to me to have a decent perspective and approach toward understanding the difficulties of complex clients and the difficulties in providing effective help. Very glad to see that!
I came across a book recently called "Wounded Personalities". That seems like a good description, at least for me and hopefully the public at large. The author was not a clinician, and seemed to be promoting a better understanding of conditions which end up with people getting Personality Disorder diagnoses.