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I have been going to a support group and I expected some empathy from them and maybe there was but there was a lot of tough love about the negative consequences of binge drinking, i.e. being over the alcohol limit for driving the next day. This is all true, and perhaps it is what I needed to hear, I am not sure. But it left me feeling scared…. next time I am in a crisis, will I be able to resist? It highlighted the negative consequences, but without making me feel any more confident in my own emotional stability.
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The reason the others in that support group got angry is when someone goes out on a binge like that it "threatens" what these others are trying to accomplish.
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But it left me feeling scared…. next time I am in a crisis, will I be able to resist?
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That is because the next time you are in a "crisis" instead of giving in and taking that drink you are supposed to go to a meeting. That is what "most" of these individuals learn to do, that is what is so incredible about these support groups. That is why someone is given a book so they can see all the places that have meetings and usually, there is a meeting every night. I know individuals who travel, and they always find out where meetings are being held in whatever place they are traveling to.
My husband's sponsor has three grandchildren that are very ill, cancer and one of them has so many allergies they have to pay attention to everything he eats. This man has them living at his house and came out of retirement and went back to work so he could help cover all the expenses involved. He goes to meetings instead of giving in to alcohol, or going out on a binge. Some individuals struggle a lot and go to meetings every night. They talk about how they are challenged and support each other to help each other face some major challenges instead of escaping through alcohol.
So, maybe learn from this slip and make more of a commitment to growing instead of giving in to feeling your lack of confidence in your own emotional stability. The others in those rooms most definitely know that challenge. Understand they are vulnerable too, so their reaction is reflecting that.
Next time you are in a crisis, "don't drink, go to a meeting".