Hi Dad
read through most of the threads... don't make any rash decisions, take your time with it. yes 10 years is alot of investment in another person, but it takes 2 people to try to make things work.

like the other's said. self care is so impt right now and being there for your kids....

yes its hard with kids involved...but kids are adaptable, and its better to be apart than to be in a marriage just for the sake of the kids, i know you still love her, i think your just struggling with the fact that your marriage could be really over...

like said earlier take your time, grieve if you have too. but most importantly look after yourself and your kids