Wow, I'm surprised that everyone who has replied to this thread feels the way I feel...like my BIL has become involved with his new girlfriend way too fast. Judging by how guilty he acted when he told me about having a girlfriend, and based upon his usual behavior, I strongly suspect that they were in communication with each other before my sister died. If they were, I'm sure my sister clued in. So sad. Frankly, I wish my BIL would not have told me about the gf. I did not need to know.