Thanks for your view on labels and pathologizing. I feel like despite my best efforts my behavior and character have been pretty pathological sometimes. Also known as toxic. Or maybe it's all just "human"?

Again, all this despite my best efforts. The best I could do at the time.

I guess I just see a lot of judgmentalism in the world generally and maybe sometimes a rational judgment might be OK, if it doesn't imply a rejection of the person for being (temporarily or permanently) wounded, any more than we would for a physical injury. Still, though, if the person can't walk, they can't walk. Time was, years ago, people were made fun of for being "crippled". No one would think of that today.