It sounds like a difficult situation to be in, Patagonia.

Kids are smart cookies though, they can sense when there is tension in the home between parents, and I would venture to say that living in that kind of environment is harder on children than having your parents divorce.

My parents separated when I was very young and I'm glad they did. I would much rather them do that, than stay in a loveless marriage. My boyfriend's parents did exactly what you are doing - staying together for the kids. My boyfriend told me that he knew it was a loveless marriage, and that had a negative affect on him. Like I said, kids are smart.