I have a cat and I also watch a show called cats from hell.in and cats tend to know when there not liked maybe you weren't watching and the cat did things she didn't like because it knows she it doesn't like her. Does she ever watch the cat at home alone? It could be the simplest thing to that needs to be fixed.if its a behaviour problem with the cat you need an expert or train her yourself.if it's with her you need to decide your cat or her.i don't know if you can compromise beyond that.cats like to be up high near you they like to play so you just can't lock it in a room all day.you have to do what is best.