Hi there,

firstly thank you for this website, it helps to talk about issues.

Long story short, I have a friend she works with me for the past 3 years. We got to know each other as friends, (she is married 28yr old with son 2yr), I am 43. She started reaching out to me a lot for help , advice and comfort cause her hubby well in plain just doesn't give a damn. He told her she wanted the kid and its her problem. Well cutting it short , over 2yrs we admitted having more than just friends feelings. She told me openly she is inlove with me and I too felt the same. She started getting her divorce in place , before she told me this, and did it out of her own. Long story short this divorce never took place apparently he kept tearing the lawyer papers up, and it came to the point where I don't do the cheating or deception thing. I told her I can be her friend I am to deep in my feelings she needs to decide and I moved on. Well she contacted me the next day begging me to wait and told me she is getting a court date and I just need to wait a little longer. So, now its 3months I haven't heard from her, I see her at work everyday but she just completely wrote me off, in the sense she just didn't follow up and never met me to discuss our future. I took this as a clear sign she just wasn't committed and decided to cower and not go through with it. My question and problem, I see her and I love her and her so much, but it hurts and has started affecting my work and I have become very cold towards her. I treat her with professional respect, and courteous, but I don't want to confront her, cause she says every time what I want to hear, and no action behind it. I cant stop check her w-app profile, and she knows how to get my attention at work and uses it to try and lock me in...thus far I have not given into this, and kept it professional, but I don't know what steps to take to get over this woman. I want to move on, but I cant change jobs I love my job it pays very well and I am very happy, but this is turning into an obsession and I am not that type of guy. I was very confident and funny and outgoing and now I am the opposite. please help!!!