If a situation has caused an effect strong enough to cause a reaction, I believe there has been some trauma. If trauma seems like a word full of blame placed on your dad, maybe imagine it as physics...If an object moves, there must be some sort of force acting upon it. Nothing just happens. So, if you find yourself facing the effects of trauma and can trace it back to memories that is validation.

Now, why did it have to happen? It happened because your survival instinct has kicked in and said I will not let the force push me down anymore. I will try and understand it and use this understanding to continue a healthy survival...A fulfilling life ahead.

I understand having siblings who don't relate to your childhood. We need to understand and accept that each of us are different people with different needs and different reactions. What's good enough for others may not be good enough for us...And what's good enough for us may not be enough for others. We all have our own survival struggle.