1) Ask yourself what you are getting out of being the way you are. Do you like being the center of your own pity party? Maybe you want a reward for becoming more responsible for your own feelings? Are you waiting to be rescued? Finally, what would change bring you? Would it be better than your present experience? Can you imagine what life would be like if you changed? Work that imagination...

2) Clean up your place. No one wants to date a secret slob.

3) Find a park to visit even if you are just sitting on a bench daydreaming. If it's cold, bundle up.

The law of inertia has you going in one direction. Fight back. I am in the same boat as you. We can change our futures.