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If you read Pete Walker's book, then you know very well he was a Fawn type. That's doesn't mean He always was locked on the Fawn type as it turned out. During recovery which is a very slow process that He kept reminding me of. We can vacillate easily between the 4Fs. For example when we are on the flight mode, we don't want see people, we isolate ourselves, we busy ourselves with anything that keeps the abandonment pain at bay. When we want to be with people however, we can switch to the Fawn type which is to say, people pleasing, seeking approval, over eliciting, sacrificing too much etc. This confusion is now clear for me since I can relate to every 4F defense mechanism. Sometimes I dissociate to Fawn (my major type), others to Flight and so on. So you are not actually locked on one particular F.
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I agree totally with this. I can go into fight and flight when appropriate (related to physical danger). When I'm stressing out while dealing with people on a day to day basis, my primary is definitely freeze. I do have some control over this I think, because I used to also have a very strong fight mode when stressed, but I don't like myself when I'm in fight mode so I learned to avoid it at all costs. Fawn is definitely secondary to freeze for me and mainly comes into play when my stress level is lower.
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