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Originally Posted by Hopingtrying
 I think that whenever a parent yells at their child in an emotional way, it can be traumatic and this went on for a while. While I do not believe in spanking, I think that an unemotional spanking is less damaging to a child than emotional yelling that goes on and on. It sounds like you are gaining some insight into your problem. It is a shame (your dad's shame) that he put you through this. Parents don't treat each child exactly the same; everyone is different and our relationships include an intangible thing that I call chemistry. How it all played out is not your fault. Yelling for an entire hour was not OK. Maybe during this time period, he had terrible anxiety, that kind of thing, but he was supposed to be the adult and you were just a kid! |
Absolutely agree with this. I know in my father's case, I'm pretty sure he was on the severe end of Borderline PD and Narcissistic PD. He was always like that. Where I lucked out was that there were periods of time where others took the brunt of the abuse and I would get a little break from it. My mother was always a target, but then he always had a scapegoat too that he targeted. It would switch depending on who did something to make him mad, sometimes he would have multiple scapegoats. For some reason though, I tended to be a popular scapegoat.
Sorry, I hope I'm not hijacking your thread Só leigheas. The main thing that I'm trying to point out is that you are not alone. We've had similar experiences, and the result of that, and other experiences we've each had have led us to the world of CPTSD.