After years of being referred to MH primary care, and them bouncing me back to GP, I have finally been referred to secondary care, CMHT, had initial psych appointment and was assigned a care worker (CPN)... CPN asked me if there was any one I didn't want information about my MH given to. I said I didn't want family to be told anything.
Last week after reiterating all the bs about wanting to 'build a rapport and trusting relationship' with me, she now says that she wants to speak to my next of kin (in the event that I am in crisis and at risk of harming myself). I said I wasn't happy about this and offered 2 alternative contacts whom I would be ok with her speaking to. She said neither were acceptable and asked me to give it some thought, I said does that mean you intend to speak to my NOK regardless? She said we would rather have your agreement, at that point I said that client confidentiality didn't mean anything then.
I am not on a section or CTO, so surely she cannot insist on talking to my NOK against my wishes..?

I now feel as though what little trust I had has totally broken down and I am considering discharging myself from CMHT care. Not something I want to do, given how long it took me to get referred to them in the first place, but if I can't trust them, then what choice do I have..?

Any thoughts or opinions or perspectives on this would be welcomed please.

This whole situation is really stressing me out and the last thing I want is to be at odds with the people who are supposed to be supporting me. I do kind of understand where they are coming from on a safeguarding front, but surely they still have to respect my rights...??