I'm having a bit of this same dilemma. I'm a gay woman and met a girl who is too clingy and wants too much too soon. (not sex, but gifts, etc) She acts like she is gentle, sweet and loving and then she starts about what a "bad-***" she is..in the name of self-preservation from sexual abuse growing up.

She told me last night about how she put a hole in her kitchen wall and when she told me why I thought, "Wow, time to leave this behind..."

I AM ENDING IT TONIGHT!