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Originally Posted by captgut
Dear T,
I said I'd like to hug you before I...you know...but you don't deserve it.
You said "Well maybe we'll hug one day... Maybe in the next life". And I was like huh? We've already hugged 3 times. Did you change your boundaries about hugging?? Did you?? It's very sad.  I can't stop overthinking.
I also said I want to cry but I can't, and you told that your cried during your own therapy session last time (guess you meant supervision). IT TOTALLY TOTALLY MELTED MY HEART! Thank you for sharing... It's very important for me.
You said now it's easier to deal with me than before. Does it mean I was terrible before? I'll never know...
I didn't tell you I love you again... Maybe I'll never tell you
I can tell you here: I LOVE U
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Try telling. I told my T. She thought I loved her romantically so I clarified on all the types. I asked if she has "agape love" for me and she said yes. My heart is full and I want to share with you.
Clarify with your T on the hug boundary. I thought T was going to take hugs away last session. She said she thinks she never will but we'll discuss if anything ever needs to be taken away (like her reassuring me, I told her I'm hurt and we talked).
It's OK to love someone safe, kind, good, steady for us like T has been.