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I call b.s. on that statement. That's very passive-aggressive and not the least bit constructive or even helpful. It comes across as a judgement or criticism of my character, which is irrelevant frankly.
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You can call whatever you want on it but calling "b.s." on something implies that someone is telling something other than what one believes is true, with the purposes of misleading someone. I assure you there is nothing of the sort going on here. You can disagree with me or anyone but just because you dont' agree doesn't mean they are trying to bullsh** you. Whether I am wrong or not, the reality is that sometimes the things that are actually honestly said are the hardest things to accept. But trust me, there is nothing in my statement that is intended to put you down, minimize or hurt you. My intention is to help. Take that or leave it.
I'm not sure how to respond to the passive aggressive statement, I mean, I dont' know you, only your issues that you post here, why would I have any reason to be passive aggressive with you in the first place? I gain nothing from coming here to cause you stress or anger you.
I make no judgements on your character, once again, because I do not know you personally.
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I don't have the finances to move to another city/state/country. And even if I did, like I said, "wherever you go, there you are." Your problems DON'T change because your geography does. I've lived elsewhere over the years, and that didn't change anything for me socially-speaking, except my billing address for bills and rent. It is very naive to think that a new location means fresh start. The fresh start is internal, not external.
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You assume that changing environments = moving physically. that was not at all what I meant. Although moving physically to a new location would ultimately change environments, it is not actually a requirement. I can live in the same house and change who, what and where I do my business, entertain myself, or hang out. The who, is the part that I was most focused on.
As an example, I am an artist. I can be involved in artistic groups in all kinds of ways. If say I was involved in a group related to my style of art... wait I have an experience based example here. I use something called picarto. It's a live streaming art site where you can do your art live with viewers watching your work. Well in my case I have found there are many groups that take part in certain chatter and activities, have certain attitudes. some I will get involved with, others I have found I have to avoid because I disagree with the way they interact online. now I am only assuming that your problems are related to the people involved in your group related to the passion you mention. if that is so my only suggestion is to try and find a different group that has the same passions but are beter people. Again, this is working from minimal amounts of information pertaining to your situation so I know, I could be off.
but ultimately we do have choices and whether we like it or not, if we choose to remain in situations with toxic people, we choose to remain in the toxic situation.
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Obviously, I need to make an internal change about my attitude with these toxic individuals. That is probably the only way I can deal with them.
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If there is no way to find a different environment (again, not necessarily physical) then you are probably right about that.