The ultimate goal of therapy is to learn to live for yourself, not to live for your therapist. By the time you've been in therapy for 3 years there should be some sense of wanting to live for yourself, not just for him.

Your therapist sounds quite manipulative. I don't believe he's looking to divorce his wife, I believe he's crossing boundaries with you.

There are loads of people who will gladly lead someone into a relationship - especially a sexual relationship - by having the person believe their current relationship is ending when the truth is, they have absolutely no plans at all to end the current relationship. They're just bored and frustrated, telling lies, avoiding truths. I know this for a fact, because I was someone who led a man into believing I would divorce my husband to be with the other man. Truth is, I had absolutely no intention of divorcing my husband. I was just bored and frustrated with my marriage (to a degree), and looking for another chance at youthful opportunity. Like all situations that start out with such chaos and deception, it ended absolutely horrifically for both the man and I.

You can do what you want to do, maybe that means getting into a sexual relationship with your therapist and it'll be thrilling for a second, but then WOW are you gonna get hurt and messed up. I can promise that.

And too, maybe this fantasy is kind of all in your head and your therapist would tell another story.