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Old Mar 25, 2017, 12:31 AM
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Originally Posted by childofchaos831 View Post
Not punishment in a cruel way, ever. But, for someone who never had an appropriate parent child relationship, some punishment can be good. I hesitate to use that word, tho, and lean more toward consequences.

Sometimes, therapy turns into a parent child relationship. It is where people learn how to properly navigate life and the relationships in it. If they never had proper consequences, either too lenient or too harsh, getting consequences from a T can be really beneficial.

This is why some Ts set rules on contact btwn appts, for instance. Without set boundaries or expectations, consequences don't have the desired effect.

Pushing boundaries is often a way to see if the T will react the way the parent(s) did/would. Sometimes, people in therapy need someone, anyone, to stand up and say "I will not allow that." Often, the only person they have that is capable of that is their T. It is, technically, modelling healthy boundaries and behavior.
I think setting and maintaining healthy and appropriate boundaries is totally different than punishment though. Boundaries setting is, well, healthy and appropriate, while punishment in therapy is not okay at all. In my opinion anyway.
Thanks for this!
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