I came to the conclusion that both of my first two T's couldn't give me what I needed. I so wanted to believe that they were competent T's and that if I carried on trying to talk to them that we would work things out. I think I made the right decision to quit seeing them. It was very painful at the time though, and so hard to make that decision. I managed to do a positive ending of sorts with the first one, and she left her door open for me to return. I didn't do this with the second one, and I think that the pain of the ending will stay with me more because of this.