Sounds hurtful that he didn't respond to your email. I imagine he would be willing to discuss the email in session? Either way, he could have acknowledged it.
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One of the things that was hardest for me, was that he felt very disconnected from me emotionally. He said that wasn't the case, though he did acknowledge changing the way we were doing therapy to a more practical, rather than emotional focus.
Now, it feels like everything has changed, even though he says it hasn't, and he tells me he is still 'standing still' for me. He still feels distant and not connected to me.
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The bolded part above-he can't say he hasn't changed when he did change the therapy approach. Sure, as a person, he hasn't changed. But he did change his behaviors. I think that can be confusing!
My therapist has said similar things-that he hasn't changed despite my experiencing him as changing; it also seemed to be related to his therapy approach. In my case, I think when I go deeper with emotional exploration, it feels like I am more connected to him as the transference is stronger, which amplifies attachment feelings from early childhood years.
Do you think there's a chance you could repair this relationship or are you 100% decided?
I hope you are able to make the right choice for yourself.
