If your family wants to treat you in such a disrespectful manner, then I say don't talk to them and don't tell them anything about your life. If that isn't enough get restraining orders against them and tell them to screw off.

You don't deserve "family" like that. Just because you are related by blood doesn't mean a damn thing.

After all, any random idiot couple can have sex and pump out a kid, does that make them worthy of respect? Hell no. If your family won't give you the respect you deserve than you have no obligation to include them in your life.

You're better than that.