"Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned"

A part of her is going to "hate" that man that hurt her for a long time, that doesn't go away. It's still very much in the present for her. When she talked about starting all over and dating for a while, what she meant by that is she needs a redo so she can see "if" there is anything left or there to love and trust once again. That means you can't think about what you had before, you really do have to prove yourself to her and that means you can't just expect to have a say about her life, just as you had no say when you started dating her initially. She is showing you "boundaries" so if you think some of her behaviors are wrong? Well, in her opinion at this point you don't have a right to deciding that. You are learning what "consequences" are.

You can choose to give up any time. I think that is why she is giving that to you. It's a test.