If you expressing your needs or hurts caused the relationship to derail, then it's on HIM not you. Are you supposed to walk on eggshells for fear of pushing him away? That would be ridiculous. The client is supposed to bring their freaking needs out in the open. One therapist I went to suggested that as a client your job is to ask for what you need, period.

Sounds like he just doesn't care, and maybe even is a bit of an a-hole, though I could be wrong.

Being in a relationship where you care more than the other person, and you are paying, that is just plain horrible in my experience.

ps: I'm confused, do you have multiple accounts?