Since no two of us are identical, I first encourage all of us to avoid much use of generalizations and categories for human beings...

Some people try to change because they believe they can or even must, but "getting better" does not always have to be the specific goal. Not all of my grandchildren always find it fun to play with me, for example, but I cannot change to playing like they do and the idea of slowing to my kind of pace would likely not offer much enjoyment for them.

Not having the urge to change or try new things is something you and I have in common, and part of my own deal there has to do with the pain I experience from something as simple as just rising up from my chair. At the same time, however, there are times I weep alongside you -- I can only briefly glance at pictures of my grandchildren -- because we are missing some things other people are doing...and at least partly because our presence might require their having to change a bit to help make it possible for us to come along.

I used to have an uncle who said he and a neighbor were two living members of their neighborhood "Good Ol' Boys and Cripples Club", and now today I wish I had joined way back then! I have not tried to answers your questions about yourself here, but I do believe the answers we seek might best be found right here amongst ourselves.