Hey Ohxpoorxme.
Finding reasons to stay in a bad relationship with a limited outlook is what keeps us stuck. There will always be a reason to stay...However, there are three reasons I can think of right now for exiting this relationship.....YOU...YOU ...and YOU.
If anyone had me falsely arrested that would most certainly be a deal breaker, but I am guessing over the years he has worn away at your self esteem, and played the guilt trip card more than once.
There is a great big beautiful world full of wonderful people out there. So be kind to yourself Ohxpoorxme....strive to be the hero of your own life first and foremost.