Hi Laurie, I have just started seeing a t who, I think, is 15-20 years younger than me. I have told him point blank I won't be engaging emotionally, thank you very much, as it just feels...weird. We'll see how that goes.

But honestly, he's technically the best T I have ever had. I've learned more in the last few weeks from him than in years with others who are my age or older than me. He is a true trauma specialist, as opposed to the generalists I have always seen who say they know trauma. They really, really don't.

I'd give it some time and see. The female and my-age Ts I had didn't have a clue about breast cancer & mastectomies and whatever when I was going through that. I was much younger than most dealing with it all.

Regardless of age, they hadn't been there. They were no more or less help than my male T who just got that it was major and scary and another traumatic thing to add to the heap of traumatic things.

Oh, and the Ta of my age & stages who went through the same big-scale trauma I did...were not really a huge help, because we were all there. It just sort of got normalised..in an unhelpful way. And I sort of found myself comparing my messy self to their apparently together one.

I guess what I am saying is, it doesn't take carbon-copy life experience to get good therapy, and sometimes a bit of difference and distance can create a helpful and fresh perspective
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