hi mr. stranger.
starrysky had it bang on... when we are so used to our old ways... we resist change or find it hard to do all the things that have been suggested to us through books or therapists. i know i have struggled with this all my life and now i am in my mid 40's.. you also say your afraid of change or to try new things.... 2 books i recommend you read if you get a chance.

Feel the Fear and Do it Anyways- Susan Jeffers and Louise Hays " you can heal your life" both of them i have read.

like Star said it takes action before the motivation comes... there are things i don't feel like doing in and once i take the action part than i am glad i did.

please don't compare yourself to other's no 2 humans are alike and you will never be happy that way, you will stay miserable.

start of with small goals that you can accompolish on a daily basis.

good luck you can do this.