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Originally Posted by Mr. Stranger
One last thing, which is why I keep comparing myself with others. Comparing myself with others gives me an idea where I stand relative to others. When I compare myself with my peers from school, I know I am behind in life (they have stable jobs, families, investments, cars, houses, do trips, .. etc, while I have nothing but my education certificates). When I compare myself with people here, I know my fear of change and trying things isn't common and that I am lacking/missing something. They make me feel bad about myself, but this is because I know I am not where I am supposed to be, and what I have to be doing.
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Sometimes when we are depressed, we compare ourselves to others to much (I have been there too). This is why I don't post much on FB. However, success is a finicky thing. There are people who have it all and then tragedy strikes. We can change our actions but some circumstances are out of our control. Hopefully, the fact that you are examining the reason for your failures will pay off and you will learn from it. And if it makes you feel any better--sometimes there is a lot of dysfunction going on in families that seem perfect. I don't wish that on anyone but I know a few successful people who are driven because of their insecurities or because of extreme hardship they endured when they were younger. They say that success is not a destination but it is a journey--that is a pretty corny thing to say isn't it? But I do think we are happiest when we are trying to accomplish things everyday and especially when it eventually pays off in some way. So just keep trying?