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Old Mar 26, 2017, 08:57 AM
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Originally Posted by DarknessIsMyFriend View Post
You're right. I could tell them that I got sick and talk about a sick relative because that technically isn't a lie because my mother did have a lot of health issues as I grew into adulthood including later on being diagnosed with lung cancer before eventually dying. I will just leave out the fact that she was the person who screwed my life up. Maybe I can get an emotional response from employers if I can't prove myself any other way haha

Still though, I really need to figure out how I am going to design a good resume when I have hardly anything to put on it. I am waiting on the DRS to contact me because I was going to rely on them to help me, but I can't wait any longer I want to be getting things done now.

I tried looking up examples of resumes made by people without any work experience but every time I do it makes me feel worthless because every resume example that I've found talks about the person's good grades or extracirricular activities that the person excelled in and I don't have anything like that because I barely did well enough to graduate in high school because I was struggling with bullies and my mother's antics at home. All I have is trade school but unless I apply for jobs in the IT field, what point does putting it on there even solve? Especially considering the fact that I never actually finished the program that I was in because I found it too overwhelming due to my MI.

All this waiting is driving me insane!
I helped my good friend (who I work with) rewrite her resume, because she didn't think she had certain qualifictions, but (and it helps that I work with her) I found ways to phrase it in her resume so that it did sound like she had experience in those areas, while maybe it not being her foremost skill.

I think sprucing up a resume to make it sound the best possible is absolutely necessary, it's the outright lying that concerns me. But I think there are absolutely ways around it.

For exampled, if you get a friend to be your reference, you call them your mentor or job coach or tutor...Then coach them on what to say about you.

I have "real" references, and I still coach them on what I need them to say about me.

So your friend who got a good job and such, he could be your career coach as a reference.

I think I just, personally, just don't like it when we cross the line into totally untrue, versus, putting something in the very best light we can.

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Secondary Dx: Generalized Anxiety Disorder with mild Agoraphobia.

Meds I've tried: Prozac, Zoloft, Celexa, Effexor, Remeron, Elavil, Wellbutrin, Risperidone, Abilify, Prazosin, Paxil, Trazadone, Tramadol, Topomax, Xanax, Propranolol, Valium, Visteril, Vraylar, Selinor, Clonopin, Ambien

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