I personally think my son needs benzos but with addiction issues, this will need to be monitored. He wouldn't need them all the time, just sometimes. I think they are safer (minus the abuse potential which needs to be monitored) than long term use of antipsychotic. My view is very controversial however as many people on this board report having extreme issues from Benzo use, regret taking them and don't even believe in them being prescribed at all in several cases. Each persons mileage may vary when it comes to meds. I've taken benzos on and off for about 5 years or so.....only when needed and never developed a problem. It depends on the unique symptoms your children are having. Research thoroughly and be as educated as you possibly can before making your decision.....they should have a say, unless the symptoms are so extreme they can't make educated decisions. I've had symptoms despite being on AP medication and side effects were horrible, even life threatening so please really think about all options.