You have not asked many girls out. Ask more out. On my first date with my husband, he took me on a double date. The activity was a motorcycle ride up into the mountains on a lovely Spring day. I thought his motorcycle was sexy and loved the sensation of the wind. He made sure I had a helmet and seemed like a safe driver. On our second date, I grabbed his hand as we were standing in line for a $1.00 movie matinee. It was something I did without any kind of forethought, there was just chemistry for some reason. Prior to that date, I had experienced plenty of dates where the chemistry was lacking. I rarely second guessed why? One of the reasons that I kept seeing him was that we enjoyed doing the same activities like drinking beer, camping under the stars, tubing down the river, etc. I think our sex drives are a part of our human nature so if you can find a girl who likes to spend time with you, it might happen naturally.