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Originally Posted by justafriend306
Hi. No, please continue to post. That is what the forum is for. But remember that support isn't only about providing agreement and consolation. Support also includes constructive criticism.
I have read your posts. Yes, it is very apparent that you seek change in your life. What isn't apparent is that you are doing anything about it. People have offered you plenty of advice but there is no acknowledgement of that nor is there indication you are undertaking any of it. It frustrates me then that you ignore doing anything with this advice yet still complain.
I encourage you to be open about your feelings, but please consider advice and direction that people had previously kindly taken the time to provide you.
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This is exactly why I posted this thread. People think I lack the knowledge of what to do, while my issue is how to do them. It seems that you think it is direct and simple: you know something, you do it. For me it is not that simple. I know almost everything has been suggested and said, but this thread isn't about asking for suggestions, but it is about how to be motivated for change and how to overcome the crippling fear. I know I want to get better because I am not living my life and my current situation is painful and miserable, but this doesn't seem enough for me, while it seems enough for others (most of them) to at least try to change by trying different things. I can create many excuses why I am not trying, but the fact is that I am so afraid and scared. That is why I think I will never change, because I am not seriously trying because I am so afraid to start. I don't ignore suggestions because I want to offend anyone, but because I cannot do them. Also, I don't remember asking for suggestions. I wanted to understand why I am not trying to change and why I am stuck. If you feel frustrated, I encourage you to use the ignore list option to hide my posts from you. I use it a lot and I have many names on it.