Ok, here is another reason why I have troubles dealing with things going well. When I am not mad at my hubby I start missing him terribly. It aches so darn bad. When I think of him I can smell him, feel him, taste him. It is a whole body experience that leaves me hurting through and through. Then I start worrying that I will never see him again. That he will get in a car crash coming home from work or he will get shot in a hold up at the store.

Wouldn't it be better just to stay angry at him forever about some made up reason? No, it isn't better because then the ache ache of longing is replace by the pain of loneliness. Either way cutting relieves the discomfort be it longing or loneliness.
Carrie