With marriage counselor, definitely the second of two individual sessions we had to address my transference a couple years ago. The nervousness and fear that I had in my first individual session was mostly gone. At times, it felt more like two friends sitting and talking (not in an inappropriate way). Like he shared this story about a friend he had feelings for in grad school (I got the sense they may have hooked up once), who ended up involved with someone else. (I think he was trying to draw some parallel with him, this friend, and the friend's boyfriend to himself, H, and I, but I was never clear who was representing who in the story.) I felt really connected to him. And at the end (I think I was there over an hour), he told me his door was always open to me. Which meant a lot. I thanked him for agreeing to a second session as he was shaking my hand, and he was like, "No, thank *you*."

Then a few months later, when I tried to cash in on the "my door is always open to you" card and requested another individual session (I was having more transference issues), he changed his stance and said no, which crushed me. He eventually admitted he never should have made that offer to me.

But I still have fond memories of the session, despite what happened later. I honestly have wondered if maybe he felt a connection there, too, so he spoke without thinking. And later was like, "*****, no, I can't meet with her solo again." (I'm sure he would never say that if asked.)