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Attention Mar 28, 2017 at 01:00 AM
 
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Originally Posted by Tabby23 View Post
Yes, I believe it's possible with the right person. Someone who understands your limits to being social.
We are not uncaring people. And within our comfort zones are capable of letting people know we care and that they are loved, etc. We just don't stay in that zone 24/7.


I guess I really understand that part. And one of the hardest things to deal with is people who don't understand that that's who I am, I have my limits. I can be around others, to socialize (if that's the word to use), and spend time with & interact with people. but at the same time, I need my alone time! I can spend the weekend with my family (8 plus my two young teenage nephews and my 2 yo niece) [most times is not with all of them at once], but then I need my 'recuperating' time. [which is why I have no problem at all leaving them to drive back home after dark instead of spending the night and leaving the next day.] I need my time to myself to unwind, relax, calm down, sleep - basically to just be me.

I agree it is a balancing act. if you find someone who can understand that and be flexible with that and even if they don't understand the specifics but be okay with the broad concept, then romantic relationships could work. I don't have much knowledge on the 'love or romantics' side of it, mostly due to not experiencing that. but I suppose the possibility is out there



side note-> I lived with my parents for a few years (when I was in my mid-twenties) and there were things I was doing that only people with schizoid traits could understand. my dads a farmer and my mother is retired and so after spending like 6 or 8 hours a day around them, I would stay up half the night just to get in my 'me' time. they hated it, made fun of me for the hours I kept, and just made things harder on me. but they didn't / couldn't understand that it was just who I was. that after being around people for a long enough time period, that I need alone time - to balance things out...
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