Oh my gosh I can so relate to the tearing yourself up over frustrations.

Pancakes are tricky - but good for you giving it a shot, next time you might find better, practice makes perfect. The real tricky bit is not turning your frustrations in on yourself.

My progress in not tearing myself to bits is to take a deep breath, ask what's the damage, try to see the funny side - give myself a break.

Honestly I have many years of screwing up in many different ways - giving myself a break is a necessity.